Wednesday, July 25, 2007

Losing my Dad

My dad. Gone at age 73. It hits me when I use a phrase of his, see a picture of him or remember the things he loved.

He loved cats and tennis. He loved junk food and bad jokes. He loved winning at almost anything. He was pretty in love with himself too. And yet, I know he loved me and Stephen deeply.

While my dad could never have been accused of being overly sentimental, he did care underneath a sarcastic wit and otherwise seeminly Vulcan exterior.

When we went through his room, a disaster of a mess if there ever was one, we found carefully preserved newspaper clippings from his own PR and photos of his many dates with women from around the world preserved in albums.

We found classical music CDs next to videotapes of The Sound of Music and Guys and Dolls. We found vitamins next to bags of Cheetos. Our own recent photos were carelessly slung beneath piles of papers, looked at once and ignored after that.

Still, I noticed that the wooden donkey that I carved in high school, during the year I lived with him, was at his bedside.

Four miniature horses were out back, little creatures he acquired earlier this year. All stallions, they were friendly enough, with the largest one named "Elvis" and the rest with no names. We needed to find these little guys good homes, so I called some veterinarians and found out we needed a Coggins test on all of them to transport them.

A traveling vet made a "farm visit" and admired the little guys for their manners, saying they looked healthy, with three of them being a "bachelor" tribe of youngsters, only about three years old, and Elvis being the leader by being larger, older, and wiser (about 10 years old).

Camden, South Carolina is horse country, so it wasn't long before we connected with owners of singleton horses who needed a friend. After getting the word out, we had three visitors in one afternoon, all of whom wanted one or two of the horses, but not the skinny blond (sorrel-colored) horse my sister-in-law dubbed "Bon Jovi."

At 8 pm the night we were leaving town, I got a call from Crystal, a vet tech, whose father-in-law was willing to take all four horses. Crystal had come out to see the horses and was impressed with them, considering taking one for her lonely filly. Her father-in-law used to be involved with racehorses, so he knew horses well. He was willing to take all four of the horses in the morning and geld them the following week. Wanting to take no chances that Bon Jovi would end up an orphan (he was also the one most bonded to other horses), I said "yes, you can have all four of them." And that was that. The horses had a good home, as pets for this man's grandchildren to visit.

The heat was oppressive in Camden, with nary a stir in the air that was damp with humidity. The fire ants were downright militants when you came too close to their hills. My brother, Kelly, Steve, and I worked for two days to get the basics covered. We stayed at a bed and breakfast on Broad Street, with a charming practice of delivering oatmeal chocolate chip cookies and ice to the rooms each afternoon.

Camden was never our home, so we felt somewhat estranged from this place we found ourselves in and even our father's home itself. We grew up far away and spent little time with our father when we were growing up.

I was probably the most like my dad out of four kids although I spent a lot of time in denial about that -- because I disagreed with him so often and valued such different things in life.

I value relationships and he had little time for relationships, even for those of us whom he liked. I can be a bit perfectionistic, while he often quipped "there's a reason that pencils come with erasers." We argued about politics, only always. I got mad at him for making stuff up and passing it off as truth. I worried about his health when he worried about getting a deal at Taco Bell. I could go on.

But I also recognize that a lot of my dad lives on in me and in my brother, noticeably at times in the phrases that we picked up from him (calling some of our favorite people "trolls" or sharing that you can "trust everybody but always cut the cards").

I could go on and on, but this is a blog posting and is already quite long. My dad was a mystery in many ways, a funny, brilliant, impatient, impossible, tacky, cartoon-like character of a man.

I miss him, his weird sense of humor, his endless optimism, but also just because he was my dad.

81 comments:

Caesar said...

VERY TOUCHING REFLECTIONS ON YOUR LIFE WITH YOUR DAD. THANK YOU FOR SHARING.

ALL THE BEST.

Kathleen Ceips said...

There are no words.........I pray for your family , that you will know peace.

I am grateful for the co-op and will fondly remember the letters your dad would post to us .

Kathleen

Jeanne said...

Wow, I'm stunned - I just read the email about Dr. Jon's passing almost a month ago. I feared when I read his last email on June 16 to his group that it would indeed, be his last. I'm sorry to learn that feeling was accurate.

I always thought him a bit kooky but that's exactly why I enjoyed reading what he sent. He was truly a unique individual. He will be missed.

Loyal reader for many years, Jeanne in St. Louis

Anonymous said...

I am missing him too. Loved his jokes and sense of humor. I'd always said I would have liked to meet him one day. Take Care.

DrJoy said...

Ah, "drjon"...I've been with him for years, reading his website, getting his emails and talking on occasion.
He never ceased to amaze and amuse me and his, 'it's my ball..." attitude seemed to keep him above the frey.
I enjoyed every moment and will so miss him. He was truly, One of A Kind! Would that more of us could find our center and just "be" who we are.
Love, light and memories...and I am so glad he left a legacy in his two children.
Blessings
DrJoy

Anonymous said...

Cindy,

My thoughts and prayers are with you. I was one of the "women" from around the world. Your Dad was all that you said. He was caring, and a little self centered - and very giving. I know he loved cats and tennis - but dogs (well - he didn't exactly put them in very high regard - and I happen to love little Pomeranians.

We talked alot over one summer, he came to visit and I visited him - but I didn't think we would click - I remember him best by his M I R A C L E S poem.

He will be missed. I"m so very sorry for your loss.

T

Anonymous said...

Dr. Jon was a fortunate man to have had such a caring daughter. Iknow your father will live on in your heart, just as mine does, even though he left us on the first day of Spring, 1995.

Juliana said...

Thank you for your blog, Cindy. My best to you and your family.

Your dad was a unique and fascinating character. This world needs his heart, his brain and his incredible sense of humor and purpose. Since he's coming back I hope he doesn't hang around too long out there. Dr. Jon, come back soon! We miss you.

Anonymous said...

He will be missed. I"m so very sorry for your loss.

Ladonna said...

Cindy and the family, I am sorry about your loss. I looked forward to Dr.Jon's emails and thought he was a brilliant eccentric. I think he was a blessing and he will be missed. Thank you for the co-op and all you are doing for our better health and education. May you all know the Peace that Passes Understanding. God is Love.

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy and Family,
My sincere condolences to you and yours.

Your dad was indeed a unique man. I was always glad to receive his emails and had even spoken with him on the phone a couple of times, when we were considering dating (we never met in person). His memory will be cherished.

Peace Love & Light
Christine

dkirk68947 said...

I am sorry to read of your dads passing. He had an incredible wit about him. I am sure his friends thought he was an interesting man to be around. I also believe that honesty was a real trait of his. Sure would have liked to have heard a NDE experience of his if he ever had one.

Cindy Marteney, CEO, Our Health Co-op said...

Wow...it's slightly overwhelming to see the number of comments already in. And, it's telling to me that despite my father's rough edges and feints from total transparency, he was mostly appreciated and even loved. All of your comments mean so much. Thank you, Cindy

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry for the loss of your precious dad and I had no idea he had gone home to God. You and your family are in my heart and prayers.
I remember his jokes and his letters and how he loved cats. He will be missed for sure.

God bless, Irene

Anonymous said...

I am SO sorry for your loss and for ours. I hate to hear that you are without your father, that the cat has no one to help him run for president, that we won't receive any more of those wonderful notes filled with treasured quotes. Your father made every e mail a joy to read. He was a treasure. Perhaps, at times, he was not the father you would have wished for but, he was one of the finest lemons I have ever see. He was precious to a large group of people who never met him. He was a prize!

Alysa said...

I feel like I have lost a very dear friend. He was such a delightful character and I always looked forward to his emails. I also love your co-op. Hang in there...that is exactly what he would want you to do.

Alysa

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy,
Thanks for sharing about your Dad.
I knew him only through his continual emails and schemes to help others.I enjoyed his sense of humor! I feel a friend has moved on - he said he was coming back, perhaps he'll be helping a lot from the "other side" - that would be like him.
Blessings to you & your family.
Billie

Donna said...

Dear Cindy & Stephen,

My deepest condolences for your loss. I lost my dad years ago and still miss him. It takes a long time... but God will provide the comfort you need, and friends and family.

I was a long, long time fan of "Dr Jon" and enjoyed his wit, humor and his very bright mind.

I will miss him sorely... I got to talk with him on the phone earlier this year when he was still feeling well. It will always be a cherished call.

Blessings to you both and may you find comfort and joy in the wonderful memories of your father,

Warmly,
Donna Maher

Izzy said...

Cindy & Family

When I saw the heading on your email, I felt a sadness. I looked forward to receiving his emails. I know the void that is left can never be filled. I have lost my parents, and treasure the memories that have been written on my heart. Your memories will be with you forever. Thank you for sharing with us, I read your email & blog to my husband. He too feels a sadness. Your father will be missed. I spoke with him once, a friend of ours visited with him regarding the Raiza Cream. He felt he was quite a character. He will be missed.
Isabelle

Izzy said...

Cindy & Family,

Upon receiving your email, I felt a tremendous sadness. I will miss receving his emails. I spoke with him once, a friend of ours visited him to discuss Raiza Cream. Our friend, Tom, felt he was quite the character. I know he is gone, but the precious memories of him are written on your heart forever.
Isabelle

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy and Family,

Our Dr. Jon was a trip. He made us all laugh again and again - what a crazy, romantic, and very eccentric guy. He challenged us to new heights with caring for the critters and selling creams and potions. He knew the average person could excel with just a little coaching and a lot of humor. We will miss 'Gramalsky's' wit and wisdom! I'm glad he got to spend time with you in his final days. That tells me he knew what was most important in the end. Not everyone gets that chance to return to family. He left behind a smart and articulate daughter, children who care about each other, and his vitamins that will still help people via the co-op - how great. God bless you all.

Jeannie

Monna said...

I feel very fortunate to have known Dr. Jon and will miss him much. I only wish I could have met him in person and had a face to face conversation. What a character!

Thanks for all you do for us with the Co-op.

Rosalie Thompson said...

We will surely miss your father and his wonderful comments. He is very lucky to have had a caring daughter who wrote such a beautiful testimonial to him. May you be comforted ...

Chuck Gaudio said...

Dear Cindy, I received your bad news tonite and will miss your irascible old man too.

You were the angel that saved him several months back, and I thought there for a while that he would make it, but it was not to be.

His curiosity about the way the body works led him to RBTI, and for that I am eternally grateful. I only wish he had followed the protocol, but it is difficult even if one is not a junk food junkie.

I didn't realize that it was you from whom I've been buying vitamins all these years-I'm glad.

I will miss trading stock tips with him and kidding him about cat...the other white meat.

Cindy, I just lost my dad in April. I learned to try to keep the pain to me and breathe. It helps.

Bless you!
-Chuck Gaudio, President, The Younger and Wiser Network, Inc.

Sharon said...

Cindy

You Dad was one in a million, he has left a mark with many, and I am sure in many ways.

Our best to you and the others of your family.

We could use a couple of more folks like your father

Sharon said...

I am so sorry to hear about your dad. After his last message. I was afraid of the out come.

I always enjoyed his e-mails, his intelligence and humour.

He always managed to make me laugh.

You mentioned the horses, but what about the cats, especially the one running for President this year. I am sure that he is the most intelligent canidate running.

I will miss the e-mails and postings very much.

Sharon (Ontario) Canada

Cindy Marteney, CEO, Our Health Co-op said...

Some of you asked about my dad's cats and especially the one running for president. Hmmm. Now that's a great question. Where did Gramalkyn get off to now?! We'll have to figure that one out at some point.

Ronaldo Galang said...

I went over here when I heard about it from your post at your Dad's yahoogroups (drjoncat). Must have been several years now, 'me' keeping up with your Dad as one of his subscribers. I have grown to like his weird sense of humor and humanitarian and non-humanitarian concerns. Your sharing made me understand his humannity a little better. I was deeply saddened upon hearing the news from you. God bless!

Ronaldo Galang
from the Philippines

Shooter said...

I am sorry for your sorrow. I will miss his impish humour.

Morton Bodanis
Montreal, Canada

Anonymous said...

So sorry for your loss. I am sure you were a blessing to him as he was to you and so many of us. Take care.

Ellen McCulloch said...

Ellen said......
I know exactly what you are going through. My husband just had a massive stroke and we are going to let him go and play in heaven with his grandson Kurtis.
I have missed Jon's Emails and have been worried about him. I have missed him.
I enjoyed his sense of humor even though at times it was different. He became a freind of mine even though he didn't know it.
I also lost my dad 8 years ago and many times I wish he were still with us.
I really enjoyed your words that you wrote about your dad. He was a special person to many of us as well as you and your family.
May God bless you all and give you strength as you go through this time. He will be sorely missed.
Love and Hugs to you and your family.

Ellen McCulloch said...

Ellen said......
I know exactly what you are going through. My husband just had a massive stroke and we are going to let him go and play in heaven with his grandson Kurtis.
I have missed Jon's Emails and have been worried about him. I have missed him.
I enjoyed his sense of humor even though at times it was different. He became a freind of mine even though he didn't know it.
I also lost my dad 8 years ago and many times I wish he were still with me us.
I really enjoyed your words that you wrote about your dad. He was a special person to many of us as well as you and your family.
May God bless you all and give you strength as you go through this time. He will be sorely missed.
Love and Hugs to you and your family.

Marieken said...

I too will miss the unique and wonderful Dr. Jon. I have enjoyed his emails for a few years and they were some of the most welcome ones in my inbox, always interesting and entertaining as well. My condolences to you and your family and thank you for sharing your musings on losing your dad and for letting us know this sad news.

Blessings,
Marieken

Don said...

Thanks for letting us know of your father's passing. Though we never met, I feel I've lost a friend. I discovered Dr. Jon years ago, when he started the supplement company. He was a strong character... and brilliant in a very unique way. The world needs more like him. God speed, Dr. Jon... don't get too pushy on the other side or they might delay your return! Don

Anonymous said...

Do not stand at my grave and weep.
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awake in the morning’s hush
I am the soft uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circling flight.
I am the soft star that shines at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry.
I am not there.
I did not die.
……. Anonymous
-----------------------------------
Dr. Jon will be very much missed by all who he took under his wing and made feel special. I was one of the original beta testers of Karl's Formula, and enjoyed the fun and the health benefits. Also Raisa's Cream is wonderful too. It was my pleasure to speak by phone with your Dad a couple times and to listen in on his conference calls. It was all great fun and it leaves an empty space in my heart. May you be comforted to know he was so well regarded by so many! Warmest Regards, Jo-Ann Rohm

Anonymous said...

I was very sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. I always enjoyed his e-mails they made me smile. Dr. Jon touched the lives of so many he truly will be missed.

Elaine

Anonymous said...

Thank you so much for sharing Cindy. Our love goes out to you and your family.

As so many others have said here, I used to sooooo look forward to any emails from 'Dr. Jon'. Been with him for years and he just made me crack up so many times. He was my comedy relief so often when life was tough for me. And all of his health research and caring! He truly was true to himself..... a joy for us for sure.

May the warm, loving, caring thoughts of others of your father be his loving arms around you!

God Bless you,
Leslie
Washington state

Anonymous said...

I can't believe he'll miss seeing his cat elected President in 2008!

Catherine said...

In Catholicism, it is believed one can get to a place called heaven merely by having a priest perform a ceremony called The Last Rites at the bedside. This ceremony forgives everything a person has done in their lifetime. Catholics believe in a very forgiving God. Obviously, this is also human nature.

What can be more touching than the adult child of an absentee parent for whom all the absence fades leaving only the beloved father, "warts" and all? Equally as touching is how many strangers selectively recall just those things that will leave fond memories. Miracles happen every day.

I'm sorry for any loss you are feeling. The loss of a parent happens only twice for most of us. In this loss there is much to gain, as I'm sure you are finding. It softens and refines the heart of a person, allowing love to become deeper, richer, and more understanding.

Personally, I believe that a death on Earth is a birth elsewhere (and vice versa). If you close your eyes for just one moment I'm sure you can see "Dr. Jon" in younger, healthier years, embracing life with gusto and just a small bit still of that attitude he carried with him in this life. It brings a smile to one's face, lol.

marsha said...

AH.. I will miss him and his wit. Thank you for sharing your family. And thank you for the Co-Op. Thoughts are with you. Many Blessings for you all.

lucky_rabbit said...

Your father was a very unique paradox of kindness, coldness, intelligence and absurdity. He was generous, cavalier and amusing. He spoke of you in a manner that conveyed an impression he loved you deeply, yet he realized he had difficulty showing it. It goes without saying that he touched so many people. He resonated on a deep chord. Stewart was an extraordinary being. He is greatly missed. I am sooooo sorry for your loss - and ours.

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy and Stephen:

So sorry to hear about your father's passing. Though I never met him face to face, we exchanged emails over supplements and stock investments, and his insights into health were always an important read for me.

Your comments were touching and heartfelt...it's easy to sense the love and understanding you brought to his fatherhood. As a father myself, I know how important this can be.

I also have keepsakes of my 2 daughters by my bed and around my workstation. It reminds me to think of them and be grateful for all the joy they have brought into my life since the first day of their lives.

I know that was a daily staple of your dad's life too.

I wish you all the best as you carry on. I've been a customer of the coop for years and will continue to do so...you're helping those of us who want to stay healthy and are financially challenged by the inflated prices of supplements.

All the best

Jim Lawrence in Old Chatham, New York

Cindy Marteney, CEO, Our Health Co-op said...

To Jim Lawrence: Your note brought tears to my eyes this morning. Thanks for sharing as a father yourself with daughters. I can't help but re-read your note.

Niara Isley said...

I talked with your dad briefly on the phone once after Raiza left him. I've been with his egroups for years, enough to have been around and watched the birth and development of Our Health Coop. He made such wonderful contributions to all our lives and I know he will be sorely missed. My sincere condolences to you and your family. Dr. Jon has quite a "family" out here on the World Wide Web as well. We will all miss him.

Many Blessings,
Niara Isley in Durango, CO

PS... I hope Guido will still consider running for prez...

Anonymous said...

To Cindy and Stephen,
I am so sorry for the loss of your dear dad. Although you may feel that you are ready when you see a loved one hurting and slipping away, you are NEVER really ready to let go. Cindy, it was to your home that he chose to be in, in his final times. I am sure, as smart as he was, that he knew his time was close and he chose to be with YOU. That should tell you just how much he loved you! My own children are not very close to their dad, he lives just around the corner and doesn't really see them often. I tell my boys that he loves them as much as he knows how. He just loves them in a different way than I do. I am sure that your dad loved you and Stephen with all his heart, but he showed it in his own way. Humans are funny creatures, and your father was one of a kind. He was intelligent and witty, with such a wonderful sense of humor! He will be missed by many as he had become a friend to all of us by way of his e-mails, the co-op or personal phone calls. I always looked forward to his e-mails, and the interesting topics he would discuss. Know that you and your family are in our prayers, and that the world is a better place for having known "Dr. Jon".

Blessings to your and your family,
Dot M.
Texas

HGC, TX said...

Thanks for your comments regarding your Dad. He was a very eccentric person who added humor to many lives. I thoroughly enjoyed his emails and comments over the years...even the starting of the Generic Co-Op that we all opted to join. It is a lasting legacy to you, his family, and to all of us. The 'drjoncat' tag was very fitting. We will all miss him as we related to his musings. May the peace of God garrison your hearts and minds during the coming months and years and give you strength.

Anonymous said...

Cindy, thanks for letting us all know about your dad's passing. I always enjoyed his letters and will miss his sense of humor.

Jayne Redman said...

How your father will be missed!! He was one of my favorite "curmudgeons"; his wit and flair cannot be extinguished as he will surely find a way to "come back" to benefit his critters and engage in some new product or method to benefit humanity.
I regret that I only live about 50 miles from Camden and that I never was able to meet him face to face; however, I always looked forward to his next biting retort.
Hugs from another S. Carolinian

Maura said...

Dr Jon was truly one of a kind and will be missed my so many, one of them being me. I enjoyed his crazy emails and always read them,purchased Raiza creme and stocks in his company.
Please accept my condolences to you and your family,
Maura

Daniel, from Bolivia said...

Dr. Jon, thank you. You have given me much.

Anonymous said...

Doc Jon, you will be missed. I guess me and both of my friends will just have a good cry. You scoundrel you would find a place in my heart, then go on to better things. Thank you for so much wisdom and humor over many years. We never met but I feel a huge loss. I can't imagine yours.
Michael

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy, I am so sorry to hear your father has gone. He was such a fun, neat person in his emails and such. We thought of him as a really great guy and loved doing business with him in Raiza Creme, Karl's Formula, and the Co-op.

It is hard to lose your parent, but thanks for sharing your memories of him with us. May god bless you and your family,
Dave & Alyn Olson

Anonymous said...

I have been involved in buying products through your Dad for about 6 years especially Sam's formula it has prolonged several of my family members life's who have been diagnosed with Cancer. He seemed to be able to find products that did amazing things I am sure there will be none other like him. Ward Hollesen Alturas California

Anonymous said...

Cindy, Thank you for your consideration to all of us by letting us know about your dad. He was one of my favorite people, I was with him when he started Generic Co-op and have been a beta tester for the Raiza Creme and Karl's Formula. I trusted him and felt like I knew him even though we had never met. Many times when he talked about finding a wife or a partner to help him with the farm, I almost called for an interview:o) Guess it was best I didn't since his time was shorter than we knew.

Everyone knows what it's like to lose a loved one and even though we know he's in a better place, it doesn't stop the tears we shed.

Thank you for carrying on the legacy of the co-op. When Jon sold it he didn't tell anyone who to. Now I know why I continue to buy from there as often as I can. I'll still type in Jon Brooks when asked who referred me.

Judy

Brasso said...

Ouch....that sat me back in my chair and little does. I'll miss him but I know he's in a good place; how else would he have it. He was an "original" and a creative "fireball"...but took it easy on others. What else is there? I thought he was great and in my book he won the game for sure. Besides, a "Kat-Person" can not be wrong.
My Condolences,

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy....just had to add a
comment....I have enjoyed, over
the many years, all of the e-mails,
witty, educational, humerous,
informative, etc., from Dr Jon/aka
Fason Stewart.....talked to him on
the phone a few times, ordered from
Co-op, became distributor for Raiza
and KF...love them both!!! Anyway,
sure loved his character/comments,
etc. He sure was "One-of-a-kind"
I am a cat lover so really enjoyed
all of the cat comments/pictures/etc. I miss his
e-mails and offer my sympathy to
you and Steven on your loss....
may God be with you both....
God bless, ginny from northern
Idaho.

Anonymous said...

Thank you Cindy for informing all your Dad's friends of his passing. I especially appreciated your comments and observations about your life with your Dad. I will keep you and yours in my prayers. Jean H.

Anonymous said...

It was a shock to learn of Dr. Jon's passing. I felt he was too tough and too onery to die. I've read his thoughts for several years now. What will become of his Kat? He promised to come back. I believe him. He was a fighter and the world to come is going to really need fighters.
My best, Lorraine

Anonymous said...

So sorry for your loss. I have been a faithful co-op user from the beginning. I loved Dr Jon's notes and quips. It was his spunk I loved and looked forward to receiving. I know Gramalkin will miss his 'dad', so will all his faithful followers.
L.

Jackie, Tulsa said...

Cindy, I'm saddened to hear of Stewart's death. It appears he went out thumbing his nose at the establishment while returning to his family, in typical 'Dr. Jon' fashion. He was the consumate character. Always crusading, always an opportunist, and always willing to look out for critters- a truly unique Katman. The world is a darker place because of his absence.

Anonymous said...

Cindy, thank you for sharing the information regarding your dad's passing. My heart goes out to you.

I, too, have been a member of Dr. Jon's fan club for quite some time now, and always looked forward to his email. His ascerbic wit and observations oftentimes left me chuckling and shaking my head. His obvious sincerity and love for the "critters" as well as health-related matters touched my heart.

I can relate to you, too, as your description of your father is very similar to my experience with my dad who passed five years ago. During those five years, I have come to appreciate the man and what he stood for.

My wish for you is that you find peace as you read these comments. Know that your father touched many by finding the co-op and sharing pertinent health information. Perhaps that was his mission here on Planet Earth.

Blessings,
Cathy
Hendersonville, North Carolina

Patricia said...

I am sorry your dad is gone. He added quite a bit of spark to this world.I spoke with him a couple times on the phone and got a good sense of his feisty personality. Thank you for sharing this with us Cindy.

Jamie said...

Cindy:

I started following "Dr. Jon" in 1994 through his emails and newsletters. It is VERY hard to believe that he is gone. Old farts like him just don't die!!! Like others, around the end of July I started wondering how he was doing and had a sense that he had passed over. It was right about that time that I thought I better start archiving the various articles on his preventionforver website, just in case I went there one day and found it gone. Then I received your sad email of his passing.

Your Dad's sense of humor, sense of self, sense of life, etc., was unparalleled. He did have a huge fan club, and I proudly call myself a fan. I started buying products from Our Health Co-op when it first started and have been so impressed with everything you and the team have built it into.

I have been so thankful for all your father brought to my life - funny anecdotes, great 'home-made' health tips and tricks, wonderful cat (and the occassional dog) humor, his straight-forward honest opinions about some of the craziness going on in the world at large, and on and on.

We certainly can not feel as deeply the loss your family has experienced. But know that there are many of us out here who truly, TRULY appreciated him and all he so freely offered to us all.

Jamie

GypsyladyJ said...

Cindy,

Just wanted to add my sentiments to all the previous postings. I too feared Dr. Jon's last e-mail might be his last, but prayed my foreboding would be wrong.

I loved getting his e-mails and agreed with most of his observations on life and with his love for kats. I currently have 5 spoiled felines, all former strays. How do they know where to go for a soft touch?

Take care Cindy and feel proud in the knowledge that your irascible Dad was so loved and respected.

From a fan of the Co-op, Raiza Creme and Karl's Formula and especially Dr. Jon,

J

Anonymous said...

The email messages of Dr.Jon's wit and wisdom will be missed by all who had the opportunity to read them. From a long time "satisfied" customer.

Janice said...

I had an interesting conversation (via phone) with your Dad about 2yrs ago. And I sensed in that conversation, where I couldn't get a word in edge-wise (smile), that he was a terribly lonely man. He was a prisoner in his own complex world. Too brillant for the 'rest of us', I believe. It took someone special to understand him, and there are few who would understand his nature. However, I do believe that you knew your Dad. I'll miss him too. Regarding your Dads last words to you, " I'll be back", he was expressing his wish to return to earth. I do believe that he was speaking of reincarnation. Just my opinion.

Laura said...

Thanks for this posting.I adored your dad's email's and he will be missed here. I'm so sorry he's gone. May you all have comfort in God's love. Laura

Cindy Marteney, CEO, Our Health Co-op said...

Janice, yes, my dad was ultimately a very lonely man, always in search of a reality that would live up to his "unreasonable expectations." It was hard for him to fathom why people had to be flawed in real life, as his imagination was so vivid and seemed so real to him, and in his imagination, perfection and romance and excitement and adventure reigned. There was no "doing the dishes" in that world.

Julie said...

I knew something was wrong when I didn't get any posts from Jon for awile. Thank you for letting us all know. Your dad brought hope and laughter to many! He will be missed and remembered fondly. I will miss his emails, wit and charm.
Julie in Sacramento

Julie said...

I had a feeling that someting was wrong when I didn't get any emails from Dr. Jon recently. Your dad brought hope and laughter to many. He'll be missed greatly. I will miss his posting filled with wit and charm. Thank you for letting us know about his passing. May you and your family have fond memories and healing.
Julie in Sacramento

Edward Lobb said...

Cindy

Sorry for your loss, your dad was a good man. I exchanged a numer of emails with him over the years. Dr. Jon did a lot of good.

Ed

Anonymous said...

Dear Cindy and Stephen,
Sad news for all of us that looked forward to your Dad's emails.....refreshingly politically incorrect as they were!He and his musings brought a smile every time. His advice was also most welcome......who will give us 'the good oil' on all things medical and commercial now?!! His good work will obviously live on through you both and even if he didn't say so he would have been very comforted to know that his legacy would be continued through The Health Co-op. He came across as the sort of man that would grumble all the while he was taking the shirt off his back to help someone in need...I am lucky to have come across his website and several years of emails.
Love & Light
Cheryl (Australia)

Dr. Dixie said...

I too will miss the gold-hearted curmudgeon. I've been a long-time fan (his e-mails, websites, Karl's Formula, Raiza and The Creme) and loyal co-op member. I've enjoyed his acerbic wit and whimsy.

While it's true his passing leaves the world darker, he created so much light during his life that he leaves a legacy of brightness.

Stephen and Cindy, may you be comforted. And Cindy, thank you for inviting us to the wake. I've been reading the eulogies and snuffling. It's a good memorial party. The only thing missing is the Cheetos.

Dr. Dixie Elise Hickman
Atlanta

jullayus said...

Thank you for sharing your beautiful tribute to your father. He was definitely one in a million. I will miss his wit and humor, and his good heart. I'm so sorry for your loss.

Sincerely,
Cynthia

Sue said...

Cindy

I was shocked when I got your email, it didn't seem possible.

I am so very sorry for your loss. We will all miss him but for you it is a constant void.

Thank you for sharing your candid comments to bring us to understand.

Sue

Linda said...

Dear Cindy,

I've been terribly ill myself and hospitalized, so I have just found out about Dr. Jon's death. I feel as though there is a huge hole in the fabric of my life!

I've been a follower of his ventures for many, many years, and am also an inveterate cat lover. I talked with him a couple times when Karl's Formula first came out.

There are no words for how much I will miss his special wit and humor and respect for cats!

I believe the eye formula from the Co-Op has saved my eyesight!

This man was absolutely one of a kind and he will always be in my heart.

Linda Yates
Kissimmee, Florida

Cindy Marteney, CEO, Our Health Co-op said...

Thanks for your note Linda. I hope you are doing and feeling better.

Meanwhile, my dad did not formulate the Eye Protection formula, that was something we brought out on our own (it's one of my personal favorites too).

My dad sold us the business in 2002 and everything introduced after February 2002 has been strictly ours and my father had nothing to do with any of our products or business decisions after we took over.

He wanted us to take over his later ideas, like the Swiss weight loss product, Karl's Formula, and Raiza Creme, but we opted for full independence.

Again, thanks for your note and hope you feel better and better!

Cindy Marteney, CEO, Our Health Co-op said...

Thanks for your note Linda. I hope you are doing and feeling better.

Meanwhile, my dad did not formulate the Eye Protection formula, that was something we brought out on our own (it's one of my personal favorites too).

My dad sold us the business in 2002 and everything introduced after February 2002 has been strictly ours and my father had nothing to do with any of our products or business decisions after we took over.

He wanted us to take over his later ideas, like the Swiss weight loss product, Karl's Formula, and Raiza Creme, but we opted for full independence.

Again, thanks for your note and hope you feel better and better!

Emily said...

Cindy,

I just read this post late and wanted to send you my sympathies and empathy on the loss of your dad. My dad died two years ago at the age of 71, so I do understand some of what you are going through. I've dealt with some difficult losses in my life, but this one trumps all the rest. Even at this date, I can't always believe that my dad is really gone. I miss him deeply, as I know you'll miss your dad. I hope your memories of him warm your heart and provide smiles when you need them most.

Anonymous said...

Stewart was an entirely unique character who resonated with many of us on his email lists. He had vision and unyielding determination at levels seldom seen. I would like to applaud his many accomplishments, which include the wonderful legacy he left in his children. The vacuum he leaves in his wake will surely be soothed by the instilled wisdom of those entrusted to his legacy.

We all miss him, and know his wishes for a lasting legacy will live on in his name. His noted request was his venture into Karl's Formula, and it is hoped that the caring and devotion Stewart lived out in his life will prevail in what can surely become a watershed health product in our society.

May all who loved and admired Stewart rest comfortably in knowing that this man DID make a difference!

Ed Allen

Anonymous said...

I ENJOYED READING THE BLOG ABOUT YOUR FATHER. I KNEW HIM MANY YEARS AGO IN COLUMBIA BUT LOST TRACK AFTER HE MOVED TO FL. HE WAS A GREAT HELP IN MY EARLY ATTEMPS TO 'MAKE IT BIG IN THE STOCK MARKET' AND SOME WHERE I STILL HAVE A COPY OF "A LICENSE TO STEAL"
AMAZON STILL LISTS 2 NEW AND 2 USED COPIES FOR SALE @ 10.00 EACH.
HE WAS ALSO A HAM RADIO BUD AND I WILL ALWAYS REMEMBER K4JT ('JEWEL THIEF') HIS HAM CALL. HE WAS SUCH A DYNAMIC INDIVIDUAL AND I NOW WISH WE HAD STAYED IN TOUCH. I WOULD LOVE TO KNOW HOW HE ENDED UP BACK IN SC. MY NAME IS JIM HENSON
W4UFP HARBOR ISLAND SC. w4ufp@arrl.net